Your clothes don't define you

If you are a woman it is more than probable that you have ever heard something similar to: "are you going to go out dressed like that?", "don't you think your skirt is too short?", "you wear so much neckline, everybody is going to look at you"... or even "her shorts are too short even for summer, she has to be an easy girl", "if you go out dressed that way don't complain about the looks and the things men probably shout out to you", "with that dress you are provoking men", "you have to respect yourself so don't dress as a slut"... and not always they opine about how shorter is your skirt, how higher are your heels or how larger is your neckline, no; sometimes, people say as well: "oh, your skirt is under your knees, are you a nun or something?", "turnover collar? girl, this way no boy are going to like you" or "if you dress without neck-line, with dresses and skirts under the knees and withouth heels you probably are a frigid or you are trying to hide that you are a slut".

Sometimes, people think that they have the right to opine about what are you wearing or the way you like to dress and they feel with the enough power to judge you because of it, but they don't. The horrible point about that is that some people think that you are giving them the permission of taking advantage of you, of telling you this (shitty) stuff, of touching you, of kissing you because they think you were asking for it because of your clothes (of course, clothes can talk and when you say with your mouth "NO" you mean "yes, do it please, my clothes are, not just asking for it, they are begging for it"), please, guys. It gives me the creeps to listen when some woman get raped: "what she was wearing?", "was she drunk?", "was she drugged?" as if it was HER fault being raped because of her clothes (this is named "victim blaming"). When you say to some girl: "be careful with guys if you are going out dressed like that" or "it is normal guys shout out dirty things to you if your shorts are that short" you are justifying sexual harassment, even rape.

Is that fair? Is it fair to be judge and insulted because of the way we like to dress? I think it's not.

We dress as we want to dress and not to please somebody else.

WE ARE NOT THE WAY WE DRESS

NO MEANS NO